Is it hard to find a girlfriend?
For most young men, plucking up the courage to ask a girl out on a date is hard. There’s the fear of rejection, stumbling for words, and general uncertainty about the whole thing. Yet, in today’s interconnected world, guys no longer need to use the direct approach method as there are many dating sites that allow one to browse singles and send a message anonymously.
However, does this mean that finding a girlfriend has become any easier – or is it still difficult?
This question can be thought of as asking three things:
1). Is it difficult to attract a girlfriend?
2). Is it difficult to make the first move?
3). Is it difficult to find someone who is “up to standard,” so to speak?
As for the first question, it may very well be that attracting a girlfriend has become more difficult – especially in the mid-20s to early-30s range, as many more women are finishing university degrees and opting for careers rather than finding love and starting a family. However, for high school and university age – as well as after a woman is past her early 30s, attracting a girlfriend is not very difficult. As the saying goes, “there’s someone for everyone” and with the ability to go online and instantly talk to hundreds of women, attracting one to be one’s girlfriend is not too hard.
Whether or not making the first move has become any easier or harder depends largely on the individual. While one could argue that such factors as feminism (or better yet, neo-feminism) and increased female presence in the workplace can make it more difficult to approach women, one can also point to there being many more women who are putting themselves out there by, for example, joining a dating website or going out to a club to meet a guy.It comes down to confidence – and it is the same now as always. Some men are confident and others aren’t.
Is it hard to find a girlfriend in the sense of being hard to find a woman who fits one’s standards/expectations? Again, this is entirely subjective. If you have lofty standards that no
woman could hope to attain, then yes. If you are looking in an area with poor quality women, then again – it may not be so easy to find a woman who meets your expectations. With realistic expectations and not limiting one’s search to one particular area, finding a girlfriend who meets your standards should not be too daunting of a task.
So, back to the question of whether or not finding a girlfriend is difficult – especially in today’s interwoven world. The answer must be that it depends entirely on the individual and the circumstances. In and of itself though, finding a girlfriend has become, if anything, even easier. Still, like many questions about life, this one remains open-ended. What do you think? Is it hard to find a girlfriend?